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I met many couples who were charting new paths out of this transition that involved a merging of their work—launching a new business together, for example. The third transition also has its traps: Unfinished business. Couples lack role models for what reinvention can look like at this stage of life. To move through the third transition, couples must acknowledge how they got where they are and commit to playing new roles for each other in the future. By recognizing this—and both their roles in cementing it—they were able to become more mutually supportive.
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Having earned financial security from their work, they sought reinvention not only in their careers but also in their wider roles in the world.
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Edited excerpts follow. How do your professional lives help you support each other at home? Tamar: We both come at work assuming that we will really enjoy, care about, and bring some measure of ambition to our jobs. Hopefully we will be compassionate.
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